Introduction: How to Beat Self-Defeat --; Chasing After Love and Approval From a Parent --; Getting Involved With the Wrong People --; Procrastinating --; Expecting Others to Understand How You Feel --; Waiting Until It's Too Late --; Getting So Angry You Make Things Worse --; Saying Yes When You Want to Say No --; Holding a Grudge --; Assuming They Don't Want Anything in Return --; Playing It Safe --; Always Having to Be Right --; Focusing on What Your Partner Is Doing Wrong --; Putting up With Broken Promises --; Trying to Make up While You're Still Angry --; Not Learning From Your Mistakes --; Trying to Change Others --; Rebelling Just for the Sake of Rebelling --; Talking When Nobody's Listening --; Pretending You're Fine When You're Not --; Becoming Obsessive or Compulsive --; Taking Things Too Personally --; Acting Too Needy --; Having Unrealistic Expectations --; Trying to Take Care of Everybody --; Refusing to "Play Games" --; Putting on an Act to Make a Good Impression --; Being Envious of Others --; Feeling Sorry for Yourself --; Assuming the Hard Way Is the Right Way --; Thinking "I'm Sorry" Is Enough --; Holding It All In --; Quitting Too Soon --; Letting Others Control Your Life --; Leaving Too Much to Chance --; Letting Fear Run Your Life --; Not Moving on After a Loss --; Not Getting Out When the Getting Is Good --; Not Asking for What You Need --; Giving Advice When They Want Something Else --; Backing Down Because You Don't Feel Ready.