Masculinity as masquerade -- Immaculate attachment vs. passive yearning : on being and becoming a man -- First aside : Ted -- On neither being nor becoming a man -- Two ways of looking back -- Psychoanalysis and male homosexuality/the ideal of neutrality -- Internalized homophobia in men : wanting in the first-person singular, hating in the first-person plural -- On situating homophobia -- Freud's "female homosexual" : one way of looking at a woman -- Second aside : Little Richard -- Looking at a transsexual -- War stories -- Epilogue.