Introduction -- Gham-khadi : framework and fieldwork -- From the inside-out : Bibiane's 'dual lives' in and beyond the house -- The work of mourning : death and dismay among Bibiane-- Celebrating khadi : communal Pukhtun weddings and clandestine internet marriages -- The work of gham-khadi : 'not to do gham-khadi is shameful (sharam); to do it a burden' -- Conclusion.