"John Stoltenberg speaks to men - so that women can overhear - about how the social construction of manhood operates in ordinary relationships. Using a variety of stories and illustrations, he makes everyday sense of interpersonal conflicts and internal dilemmas that distress men's lives, and he shows how the same dynamics drive the behavior of gangs, race-hate groups, and other warring male factions. Readers will find here new perspectives on intimacy, gender, and violence and be pushed to reexamine their ideas of manhood and gender identity generally. Stoltenberg's new introduction sets the book in academic context, summarizing the game theory of gender that underlies his work."--Jacket.