I. Theory 1. The Three Theories of Psychoanalysis 2. One Theory or More? 3. Translation between Psychoanalytic Theories 4. The Tension between Realism and Relativism in Psychoanalysis II. Empathy 5. Self Psychology and External Reality 6. Compassion, Empathy, and Understanding 7. Experience: Near, Distant, and Absent 8. On the Scientific Study of Empathy 9. The Unempathic Child III. Character 10. The Structure of the Self 11. On the Nature of the "Misfit" 12. The Wishy-Washy Personality IV. Clinical Papers 13. Comments on Rules and Psychotherapy 14. Psychoanalysis and Negotiation 15. Selfobjects and Self-Control 16. Some Notes on the Mirror 17. The Place of Apology in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy 18. Post-Termination