Introduction.- Gham-khadi : framework and fieldwork.- From the inside-out : Bibiane's 'dual lives' in and beyond the house.- The work of mourning : death and dismay among Bibiane.- Celebrating khadi : communal Pukhtun weddings and clandestine internet marriages.- The work of gham-khadi : 'not to do gham-khadi is shameful (sharam); to do it a burden'.- Conclusion